I find myself at the end of my child’s life and struggling with prayer. While dealing with loss and grieving, especially the loss of a child, it’s a challenge to find strength much less form a complete sentence. It is my sincerest wish that my prayers bring you as much peace as they have me. It’s during these moments where I feel small and powerless, that I ask for strength, endurance, and love. Many in despair, pray to St. Jude, the patron saint of hope, while others repeat Hail Mary or Our Father. There are prayers that we say in the dark of the night, through tears in the shower, and when we feel like we might fall apart any second. All this to say, that I hope you find comfort in these words I wrote and the traditional prayers as well.
We all recognize St. Jude Children’s Hospital. Did you ever wonder why it was name after that particular Apostle? Who founded St. Jude Children’s hospital? Why do we pray to Saint Jude?
“Unsure of his life’s direction, a young Danny Thomas sought guidance from St. Jude Thaddeus, the patron saint of hopeless causes. If the saint would point to the path he should take, Danny vowed to build a shrine in his name. Success followed Danny’s plea and soon after, the legendary entertainer set about fulfilling his vow to St. Jude. The result was St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.”
WHO WAS ST. JUDE?
He is the patron saint of hope and known to be the “go to guy” for impossible causes. He is who we pray to in times of great need and was one of the original twelve apostles. In fact, his crypt is buried under St. Peter’s Basilica in Rome.
WHY PRAY TO ST. JUDE?
Once Christ had a vision and told St. Bridget of Sweden (the patroness of failures) “In accordance with his surname, Thaddeus, the amiable or loving, he will show himself most willing to give help.” He is found in both the gospels of Mark (3:18) and Matthew (10:3.) Wherein he is named as both “amiable” and “loving.” He was referred to Thaddeus, and I would assume this was to distinguish him from Judas Iscariot.
PRAYER TO ST. JUDE AFTER THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE
Text of Prayer:
St. Jude, faithful apostle of Jesus, I seek your assurance that I am not alone as I bear the burden of pain and loss in my heart. I ask for comfort as I grieve. Please help me find courage to find gratitude and joy today, despite my deep aching.
I ask for you to move through me and give me strength as I learn to move through my grief. I ask for healing and calm as I falter on my journey to acceptance. I ask for closeness to you as my faith wavers in my grief.
Patron Saint of Hope, may you continue to draw me near and remind me of His love for me and all of His children. St. Jude, I am thankful for your favor.
Prayer for the Parents of a dying child
Text of Prayer
Dear Lord, we thank you for all the beautiful moments we were able to experience today. We also thank you for the small moments of beauty where your love and light were able to shine through and illuminate all that is good. We ask you to strengthen our weary hearts and to give us strength as we care for those we love on their journey to you. We ask you to give us strength, courage, and comfort as we learn selflessly how to let go.
We thank you for every moment we got to spend with our child and for the privilege of being her parents. She is so full of love, compassion, and kindness, and all who knew her were touched by it. We ask that the Holy Spirit calm our fears of what is to come, and replace that worry with clarity and faith. Let us see this as the next chapter of our life’s spiritual journey. We ask that as you help our daughter cross over, that she find her way to the arms of those we have loved and are now with you.
While we are sad and our hearts are shattering into a million tiny pieces, we ask that you, God who loves us like a parent, be there in our stead. We pray for compassion as we try to brave our new lives without her, for strength as we grieve, and for peace in our soul as we wait to see her again.
It is in your name we pray,
Hail Mary Prayer
Hail Mary, full of grace.
Our Lord is with you.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Our Father prayer
Who art in heaven,
hallowed be Thy name;
Thy kingdom come;
Thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread;
and forgive us our trespasses
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil. Amen.